When we decide to have a baby (or the idea was placed upon us by an unexpected positive pregnancy test), we start to think about the idea of what it means to have a baby. We imagine all these wonderful thoughts of a sweet baby sleeping and walks in the park with a stroller. We also start to look at our friends who have children. You know, those children who whine, complain and throw temper tantrums and the exasperated parents then just give the child what they want to quiet them down. We think to ourselves, “That won’t be us. We’ll do things differently.”
Now, we find ourselves back on our couch after the monumental event of giving birth and a way too short stay where we had room service and a nurse call button 24 hours a day.
We look at each other, then at the beautiful baby in our arms and simultaneously say, “Now what?”.
Let’s look at the changes for everyone involved to gain some perspective.
|Physical||Yes, Labor||Yes, Stress||Everything changed|
|Psychological||Yes (now a mom)||Yes (now a dad)|
How do we navigate the concurrently tumultuous and joyous waters that is being a new parent? How do we keep our relationship strong while enduring the impact of having a baby?
To start, we need to get back to basics: